The Boschmas

Kcrystal and I got married in June 2012, and knew we wanted to have kids someday.  Like most young(ish) couples, we weren’t sure when that time would be.  Three years into our marriage we decided we wanted to start our family and had this expectation that it would just happen.  Never would we have imagined getting pregnant would take us on a journey of immense frustration and absolute faith. 

We tried getting pregnant “naturally” for about two years. When that certain time of the month came, and a pregnancy wasn’t happening, it through us into a tailspin, a low that lasted days.  I couldn’t bear to watch my wife continually be brought to her knees asking, “will I ever be able to have kids?”  It tore me up. I was helpless and angry.  I tried to reassure her that everything would be okay. We could always adopt a couple kids from DC! But the reality was that I couldn’t truly grasp the magnitude of how she felt.  One night forever changed that.  She gave me this analogy: “Luke, you know how as a man, you want to provide for our family?” I responded, “Yeah, it’s everything.”  “Me not being able to have kids, makes me feel like I cannot provide for my family.  How would you feel if you couldn’t provide for us?”  It was at that moment, God was speaking, and I understood. 

Throughout those two long years, I knew In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) was an option but refused to believe it would be our journey.  Truthfully, I couldn’t get past how much money it was! But, as God always does when he’s bringing us through something, he provided in a way that blew our minds- a close friend gave us a check for a large portion of the IVF cost, and so we moved forward! God then showed Himself again at our first round of IVF by blessing us with a successful pregnancy.  Nine months later, in April 2018, Grayson Israel made his appearance- our miracle baby boy. 

The song Seasons by Hillsong beautifully paints a picture of the internal struggle of our waiting process. We could see the end-- His Promise that we would be fruitful and have children. We just needed to go through the process, through the harsh and difficult winter, so that we could lean into Him and learn to TRUST him. We knew that that little seed of faith would one day bring us our sequoia, as the song notes - our sweet baby. 

During the entirety of the process, we kept praying that God would use our testimony, His story, to provide a glimmer of hope to couples that were experiencing infertility. God always answers prayers, it just isn’t always the way we envision.